Some people have a habit of seeing everything as a shame or blame directed towards them, sorry you feel this way. There is nothing here that is shaming men who dont get any leave, it is shaming those who do but choose to prioritise wrk over families. it isnt even abt leave, most men get a pseudo macho pride in thinking they earn n control the finances of the house to boost their egos. N congrats on ur wanker banker wordplay, hope it made u feel like good - makes me happy u had some fun.