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Society’s Expectations from Mothers and Fathers are Shockingly Different
An honest confession and appeal from an ashamed father
The other day my wife wasn’t feeling too great so she decided to work from home, instead of going in to work.
I knew she wasn’t having the greatest start to her day.
So I decided to go in to work a bit later after handling a few of the morning chores — bathed our 3-year-old son, got him ready for the day, made sure my wife had eaten well, and some very basic stuff.
Later in the day, she and I were texting when she said “you make it so easy for me — thank you.”
I didn’t really get the context so I asked what was it that I had done? She was just referring to the fact that I was a very involved father and took a fair share of responsibility towards our son.
During the conversation — I also thanked her for the great lunch that I’d taken to work. So, we’ve got a helper who does the cooking and helping around the house, and taking care of our son during day time when we’re both working.
She was the one who’d cooked the food, so my wife felt she was getting undue credit. Instead, she said:
